Couples For Christ Retreat 2023

Couples For Christ retreat 2023

Marriott Myrtle Beach Grand Dunes, 
8400 Costa Verde Drive,
Myrtle Beach, SC 29572

Cost: $495.00


Workshop Presenters


Rev. Dr. Thurmond and Barbara Bowens (Forgiveness & Restoration) 

Dr. Bowens is married to the former Barbara Murcier of McCormick, S.C. They are the proud parents of two children, Thurmond Whitfield Bowens, III, and Lauren Murcier Bowens.  Dr. Bowens is a graduate of Hunter-Kinard-Tyler High School and holds a Bachelor of Science degree from South Carolina State University. He received his Master of Divinity and earned his Doctor of Ministry degrees, both from Erskine Theological Seminary.  Dr. Bowens is the pastor of Trinity Baptist Church in Columbia, SC.



Rev. Hayward and Starlette Jean (Quality Time) 
Hayward and Starlette Jean have been married for 16 years.  The couple met at Claflin University in 2003.  They have served as Marriage Ministry Leaders at The Feast of the Lord in Orangeburg, SC for 15 years.  During this joyful time of ministry, the couple has coordinated Marriage Conferences and Marriage Retreats in Charlotte, NC and Savannah, GA.  They hold monthly marriage ministry nights that consist of team building, guest speakers and a time of sharing for the purpose of uplifting married couples.  Hayward and Starlette are the lead pre-marital and marriage counselors at their church. 



Attorney F. Xavier Starkes (Wills and Estate Planning)  

F. Xavier Starkes is a native of Columbia, South Carolina who has more than 30 years of legal experience and a proven track record of providing the highest quality legal services for his clients.  Starkes is licensed to practice in the State and Federal Courts of South Carolina and before the United States Fourth Circuit Court of Appeals.  He is committed to the zealous representation of each client while serving them with dignity, honor, and integrity.  His specialties include personal injury law, wrongful death, federal criminal defense representation, and real estate law.










5 Basic Needs of A Man

The 5 Basic Needs of A Man

A wife makes herself irresistible to her husband by learning to meet his five basic needs.

1.  His need for admiration and respect. She understands and appreciates his value and achievements more than anything else. She reminds him of his capabilities and helps him maintain his walk with God and also his self‑confidence. She is proud of her husband, not out of duty, but as an expression of sincere admiration for the man she loves and with who she has chosen to share her life. (Ephesians 5:22‑23, 33)

2.  His need for sexual fulfillment. She becomes an excellent sexual partner to him. She studies her own response to recognize and understand what brings out the best in her, then she communicates this information to her husband, and together they learn to have a sexual relationship that both find repeatedly satisfying and enjoyable (Proverbs 5:15‑19; Song of Solomon 4:9‑5: 1, 1 Cor. 7:1‑5; Heb. 13:4).

3.  His need for home support. She creates a home that offers him an atmosphere of peace and quiet and refuge. She manages the home and care of the children. The home is a place of rest and rejuvenation. Remember, the wife/mother is the emotional hub of the family (Proverbs 9:13, 19:13, 21:9, 19 25:24).

4.  His need for her attractiveness. She is possessed of inner and outer beauty. She cultivates a Christ-like spirit in her inner self. She keeps herself physically fit with diet and exercise, and she wears her hair, makeup, and clothes in a way that her husband finds attractive and tasteful. Her husband is pleased and proud of her in public, but also in private (Song of Solomon 1: 8‑10, 2:2, 6:13 ‑7:9; 1 Peter 3:1‑5)!

5.  His need for a life companion. She develops mutual interests with her husband. She discovers those activities her husband enjoys the most and seeks to become proficient in them. If she learns to enjoy them, she joins him in them. If she does not enjoy them, she encourages him to consider others that they can enjoy together. She becomes her husband's best friend so that he repeatedly associates her with the activities he enjoys most (Song of Solomon 8:1‑2,6).

Reverend Dr. Charles B. Jackson, Sr., Presenter

7 Basic Needs of a Woman

The 7 Basic Needs of A Woman

Any husband can make himself irresistible to his wife by learning to meet her seven basic needs.

1. Her need for a Spiritual leader. He is a man of courage, conviction, commitment, compassion, character. He takes the initiative in cultivating a spiritual environment for the family. He becomes a capable and competent student of God's Word and lives before all a life founded on the Word of God. He leads his wife in becoming a woman of God, and he takes the lead in training the children in the things of the Lord. (Psalm 1; Eph. 5:23‑27)

2. Her need for personal affirmation/appreciation. He praises her personal attributes and qualities. He extols her virtues as a wife, mother, and homemaker. He openly commends her, in the presence of others, as a mate, friend, lover, and companion. She feels that to him, no one is more important in this, world. (Prov. 31:28‑29; Song of Solomon 6:10,13; Eph, 5:28‑29,33).

3. Her need for personal affection [romance]. He showers her with timely and generous displays of affection. He also tells her how much he cares for her with words, cards, flowers, gifts and common courtesies. Remember: Affection is the environment in which sexual union is enjoyed and a wonderful marriage developed.

(Song of Solomon 6:10,13; Eph. 5:28‑29,33).

4. Her need for intimate conversation. He talks with her at the feeling level (heart to heart). He listens to her thoughts (ie., her heart) about the events of her day with sensitivity, interest, and concern. Conversations with her convey a desire to understand her, not to change her. (Song of Solomon 2:8‑14,8:13‑14; 1 Pet. 3:7).

5. Her need for honesty and openness. He looks into her eyes and, in love, tells her what he really thinks (Eph. 4‑15).      He explains his plans and actions dearly and completely because he regards himself as responsible for her. He wants her to trust him and feel secure (Proverbs 15:22‑23).

6. Her need for home support and stability He firmly shoulders the responsibility to house, feed, and clothe the family.     He provides and protects, and he does not feel sorry for himself when things get tough. Instead he looks for concrete ways to improve home life He desires to raise their marriage and family to a safer and more fulfilling level. Remember, the husband/father is the security hub of the family (I Tim. 5:8).

7. Her need for family commitment: He puts his family first. He commits his time and energy to the spiritual, moral and intellectual development of the children. For example, he prays with them (especially at night by the bedside), he reads to them, he engages in sports with them, and takes them on other outings. He does not play the fool's game of working long hours, trying to get ahead, while his children and spouse languish in neglect. (Eph. 6:4; Col 3:19‑20).