Couples For Christ Retreat 2024

Couples For Christ retreat 2024

Sonesta Resort, 
130 Shipyard Drive, Hilton Head, SC

Cost: $495.00


Workshop Presenters



Revs. Hayward and Starlette Jean

Hayward and Starlette Jean have been married for 16 years.  The couple met at Claflin University in 2003.  They were married on October 22, 2005 in Hartsville, SC.   


The couple led The Feast of the Lord’s church marriage ministry for 15 years.  During this joyful time of ministry, the couple coordinated several Marriage Seminars, Marriage Conferences and Marriage Retreats.  The Jeans also hosted monthly marriage ministry nights that consist of team building, guest speakers and a time of sharing for the purpose of uplifting married couples.  Hayward and Starlette also served as the lead pre-marital and marriage counselors at the church for over a decade.

The couple began sharing Marriage Ministry wisdom during social media seminars and video messages entitled, The Power Cord Marriage through Speak Life Enterprises.  The Jeans travel nationally, hosting and facilitating marriage retreats and marriage conferences, because they believe one of the greatest ways to impact the world is to impact the families.  Marriage is the foundation of the family.

As award-winning educators, Hayward and Starlette are passionate about building families.  As a Student Service Director for Orangeburg County Schools, Hayward leads a school community that has become a source of inspiration and hope in the community.  Hayward authored a book entitled, Weapons of Mass Distraction: Dismantling the Negative Influence of Hip Hop Music on Our Youth.  As a motivational speaker, Hayward is the founder and president of Speak Life Enterprises, a speaking organization that empowers communities and organizations all over the country.  Starlette is a school leader in the Orangeburg County School District serving as a Reading Interventionist.  Starlette is the founder and balloon stylist of Make it a B.A.S.H., LLC (Balloon Arrangements by Star’s Hands).  She aims to deliver balloon joy from private to corporate celebrations.

Both Hayward and Starlette serve as ministers and youth advocates in the community.

The couple co-authored a marriage prayer journal entitled, "The Power Cord 40-day Prayer Journal for your Marriage Prayer Journey".

The couple resides in Orangeburg, SC, and they are the parents of three beautiful children, Micah, Malachi, and Imani.

 The theme of their marriage union and ministry is, “United We Stand: Better Together!”










5 Basic Needs of A Man

The 5 Basic Needs of A Man

A wife makes herself irresistible to her husband by learning to meet his five basic needs.

1.  His need for admiration and respect. She understands and appreciates his value and achievements more than anything else. She reminds him of his capabilities and helps him maintain his walk with God and also his self‑confidence. She is proud of her husband, not out of duty, but as an expression of sincere admiration for the man she loves and with who she has chosen to share her life. (Ephesians 5:22‑23, 33)

2.  His need for sexual fulfillment. She becomes an excellent sexual partner to him. She studies her own response to recognize and understand what brings out the best in her, then she communicates this information to her husband, and together they learn to have a sexual relationship that both find repeatedly satisfying and enjoyable (Proverbs 5:15‑19; Song of Solomon 4:9‑5: 1, 1 Cor. 7:1‑5; Heb. 13:4).

3.  His need for home support. She creates a home that offers him an atmosphere of peace and quiet and refuge. She manages the home and care of the children. The home is a place of rest and rejuvenation. Remember, the wife/mother is the emotional hub of the family (Proverbs 9:13, 19:13, 21:9, 19 25:24).

4.  His need for her attractiveness. She is possessed of inner and outer beauty. She cultivates a Christ-like spirit in her inner self. She keeps herself physically fit with diet and exercise, and she wears her hair, makeup, and clothes in a way that her husband finds attractive and tasteful. Her husband is pleased and proud of her in public, but also in private (Song of Solomon 1: 8‑10, 2:2, 6:13 ‑7:9; 1 Peter 3:1‑5)!

5.  His need for a life companion. She develops mutual interests with her husband. She discovers those activities her husband enjoys the most and seeks to become proficient in them. If she learns to enjoy them, she joins him in them. If she does not enjoy them, she encourages him to consider others that they can enjoy together. She becomes her husband's best friend so that he repeatedly associates her with the activities he enjoys most (Song of Solomon 8:1‑2,6).

Reverend Dr. Charles B. Jackson, Sr., Presenter

7 Basic Needs of a Woman

The 7 Basic Needs of A Woman

Any husband can make himself irresistible to his wife by learning to meet her seven basic needs.

1. Her need for a Spiritual leader. He is a man of courage, conviction, commitment, compassion, character. He takes the initiative in cultivating a spiritual environment for the family. He becomes a capable and competent student of God's Word and lives before all a life founded on the Word of God. He leads his wife in becoming a woman of God, and he takes the lead in training the children in the things of the Lord. (Psalm 1; Eph. 5:23‑27)

2. Her need for personal affirmation/appreciation. He praises her personal attributes and qualities. He extols her virtues as a wife, mother, and homemaker. He openly commends her, in the presence of others, as a mate, friend, lover, and companion. She feels that to him, no one is more important in this, world. (Prov. 31:28‑29; Song of Solomon 6:10,13; Eph, 5:28‑29,33).

3. Her need for personal affection [romance]. He showers her with timely and generous displays of affection. He also tells her how much he cares for her with words, cards, flowers, gifts and common courtesies. Remember: Affection is the environment in which sexual union is enjoyed and a wonderful marriage developed.

(Song of Solomon 6:10,13; Eph. 5:28‑29,33).

4. Her need for intimate conversation. He talks with her at the feeling level (heart to heart). He listens to her thoughts (ie., her heart) about the events of her day with sensitivity, interest, and concern. Conversations with her convey a desire to understand her, not to change her. (Song of Solomon 2:8‑14,8:13‑14; 1 Pet. 3:7).

5. Her need for honesty and openness. He looks into her eyes and, in love, tells her what he really thinks (Eph. 4‑15).      He explains his plans and actions dearly and completely because he regards himself as responsible for her. He wants her to trust him and feel secure (Proverbs 15:22‑23).

6. Her need for home support and stability He firmly shoulders the responsibility to house, feed, and clothe the family.     He provides and protects, and he does not feel sorry for himself when things get tough. Instead he looks for concrete ways to improve home life He desires to raise their marriage and family to a safer and more fulfilling level. Remember, the husband/father is the security hub of the family (I Tim. 5:8).

7. Her need for family commitment: He puts his family first. He commits his time and energy to the spiritual, moral and intellectual development of the children. For example, he prays with them (especially at night by the bedside), he reads to them, he engages in sports with them, and takes them on other outings. He does not play the fool's game of working long hours, trying to get ahead, while his children and spouse languish in neglect. (Eph. 6:4; Col 3:19‑20).