The 7 Basic Needs of A Woman

The 7 Basic Needs of A Woman

Any husband can make himself irresistible to his wife by learning to meet her seven basic needs.

1. Her need for a Spiritual leader. He is a man of courage, conviction, commitment, compassion, character. He takes the initiative in cultivating a spiritual environment for the family. He becomes a capable and competent student of God's Word and lives before all a life founded on the Word of God. He leads his wife in becoming a woman of God, and he takes the lead in training the children in the things of the Lord. (Psalm 1; Eph. 5:23‑27)

2. Her need for personal affirmation/appreciation. He praises her personal attributes and qualities. He extols her virtues as a wife, mother, and homemaker. He openly commends her, in the presence of others, as a mate, friend, lover, and companion. She feels that to him, no one is more important in this, world. (Prov. 31:28‑29; Song of Solomon 6:10,13; Eph, 5:28‑29,33).

3. Her need for personal affection [romance]. He showers her with timely and generous displays of affection. He also tells her how much he cares for her with words, cards, flowers, gifts and common courtesies. Remember: Affection is the environment in which sexual union is enjoyed and a wonderful marriage developed.

(Song of Solomon 6:10,13; Eph. 5:28‑29,33).

4. Her need for intimate conversation. He talks with her at the feeling level (heart to heart). He listens to her thoughts (ie., her heart) about the events of her day with sensitivity, interest, and concern. Conversations with her convey a desire to understand her, not to change her. (Song of Solomon 2:8‑14,8:13‑14; 1 Pet. 3:7).

5. Her need for honesty and openness. He looks into her eyes and, in love, tells her what he really thinks (Eph. 4‑15).      He explains his plans and actions dearly and completely because he regards himself as responsible for her. He wants her to trust him and feel secure (Proverbs 15:22‑23).

6. Her need for home support and stability He firmly shoulders the responsibility to house, feed, and clothe the family.     He provides and protects, and he does not feel sorry for himself when things get tough. Instead he looks for concrete ways to improve home life He desires to raise their marriage and family to a safer and more fulfilling level. Remember, the husband/father is the security hub of the family (I Tim. 5:8).

7. Her need for family commitment: He puts his family first. He commits his time and energy to the spiritual, moral and intellectual development of the children. For example, he prays with them (especially at night by the bedside), he reads to them, he engages in sports with them, and takes them on other outings. He does not play the fool's game of working long hours, trying to get ahead, while his children and spouse languish in neglect. (Eph. 6:4; Col 3:19‑20).